Attention is a demonstration of love to beloved ones, taking care of them. Constant care is one of the components of a harmonious relationship. It can take completely different forms: 

• for example, a husband doesn’t allow his wife to walk alone on the streets in the evening, thereby showing concern and care for her safety;
• she supports him in all endeavors, tries to be affectionate and friendly, especially when he comes home from work. 

These are all manifestations of attention and love. Attention is manifested in health care, joint communication, pleasant surprises — in everything that lovers do for each other.

Pay Not Only Attention but Due Attention to Each Other

Marriages break up because someone in the relationship doesn’t give what is important to the other. And it all starts with simple attention. When you are attentive, you notice exactly what your partner needs. Fulfill those needs that are crucial to them and not to you. The principle is simple: you are for them, they are for you. There’s a good book by Gary Chapman — The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. It will help you better understand yourself and your soulmate. It makes it easier to figure out exactly what you need to feel that you are paid enough attention. Some are warm, some are cold. It isn’t good or bad. This means that you need to love everyone in your own way. It happens that it is unbearable. Not everyone can “pull” an extrovert if the person is an introvert. People drift apart and say: “We are too different by nature.” Marriage is still a matter of acceptance. What we can and what we can’t. When you are attentive, you readily notice each other’s moods and needs. As a rule, it is the work in the little things that are felt the most. And this is work daily for two. It is about getting up early and making your soulmate’s favorite coffee. For them, it is to sit with the children for an extra hour, when there is no more energy at all. It is to give flowers, not on holidays, but without any reason. However, excessive attention can only alienate spouses from each other. The irrepressible control of the husband or the constant instructions of the wife — it is better not to allow such excessive attention, leaving the partner the necessary freedom.